01Oct

Ketubah Couple: Casey & Mark’s Romantic Silhouette Ketubah!

Chatting with Casey was an absolute pleasure! As one of our Interfaith couples, Casey & Mark were planning on integrating elements from both of their backgrounds to create a unique ceremony rich with the traditional and the modern. We couldn’t be happier to help create a Ketubah they absolutely loved!

Mark & Casey brought us a text we’d never used before, but we were more than happy to oblige! Combining an Aramaic introduction with a beautifully personal text, we were thrilled to be part of the magic on their wedding day. The photography was gorgeous!

From the bold colors of both of their backgrounds to a beautiful Kiddish ceremony (with manishevitz, no less!), everything was beautiful. We can’t stop looking at the pictures!


27Sep

Check out this guy’s Yarmulka! And his massive….

Check out this guy’s head covering! And his massive… Shofar! Bring in the New Year! This awesome shofar blowing has been making its away around the interwebs for a while, and what better time to share it with friends than before Rosh Hashanah. Also it deserves way more than 246,000 views, and I thought we could help!

Believe it or not, Rosh Hashana isn’t just around the corner anymore… it’s this week! When my mom sent this to me I was glad to see it in my inbox. From the all-white dress of the Rabbi (or is he a Cantor?), the white tallis, the awesome Rosh Hashanah hat on his own rosh, style-wise he’s got it down.

And then, there is the man event: the Shofar itself. Aesthetically, this shofar has got it goin on: the curvature, swirl, colors and texture. And to top it off: This guy knows how to play! Even if you don’t make your way to shul to see the shofar blown itself (high recommended!), everything about this shofar blowing is enough to get your Rosh Hashana fill!

Now, lets think about this video from a Ketubah perspective—what can we as a collective learn? After all, at the core of our modern designs is a commitment to tradition and Judaism. Usually at This Is Not a Ketubah, we are big fans of bold color, but this shofar blower knows that sometimes you gotta put aside tie-dye in favor of simplicity and reverence.

As for the Shofar, an artist could spend all day studying & and inspecting that one fine piece of ram’s horn on a sketch along! Once we consider color, movement, and emotion, we’ve got ourselves a massive learning experience, and an expression of commitment to traditional values.

Perhaps most exciting about this video is the note at the bottom, supporting interfaith families and converts to Judaism. In this time of celebration and reflection, This Is Not a Ketubah is proud to be more than just producers of beautiful & modern commissioned Ketubot, but a resource and friend in the Jewish community.

Shanah Tovah!

Jacob
Team Ketubah


25Sep

How Wacky Can You Be On Your Ketubah?

A common question we are often asked is: how wacky, over the top, wild, creative can we be on our Ketubah?

There are a few ways to approach this question.

One answer is: as long as you satisfy the technical requirements of the Ketubah, why not be as creative as possible? While we’re within the constraints of the Jewish requirements for the Ketubah (ensuring the contractual text can be clearly read, for example) — why not experiment?

Indeed, the Ketubah is a perfect place for the personalities of the couple to shine through. And sometimes, our personalities a colorful side that shine through! There’s no need to follow what everyone else does, especially in the most intimate and special of contracts we ever sign.

On the other hand, our communities and traditions do matter — and, of course, we want to hang our Ketubah proudly for the world to see, so we also want to make sure we don’t go too “over the top”.

And the “over the top”-ness depends, to a large degree, on which community you come from. Chassidic Jews have a different approach than Gay Jews. (Our personal attitude, here at This Is Not a Ketubah is, although we ourselves are somewhat traditional, we support Jews, Judaism, and Ketubot — and the marriage, commitment, and power that they represent — no matter what, in any form or manifestation it takes!).

The most important point, above all, is that the Ketubah must represent the beauty of the couple — in all of your idiosyncratic details. Each couple is different, each person is different, each is united in a different way — but all under the same Chuppah. How can a Ketubah best represent this for you?


23Sep

High Heels & Ketubahs. Cue the Streisand.

For our team, Shabbat means a slice of the ridiculous—a light note to end the week. This week, we couldn’t help but use our blog to share the most ridiculous fashion item we’ve found to date.

We applaud their--err--creativity, at least.

Sure, we’ve all been to a wedding where the Bride has gone a little over the top with the latest, most fashionable shoes. As people who design bold, colorful Ketubot as a hobby, we never really let it get to us. We said “Eh, its her day, let her do whatever she wants with her feet—more power to her!” Besides, it is well-known Jewish party etiquette: remove fancy shoes before dancing… you could kill somebody with those heels!

Let it be known that crazy shoes aren’t limited to strictly Jewish weddings. From interfaith celebrations of the big day to much-delayed legalizations of gay and lesbian weddings in NY, we are equal-opportunity shoe criticizers.

Yet outside the range of ‘moderately unattractive,’ there is a streak of “Wow. That is museum quality!” When we saw these styles, we couldn’t stop laughing, and it wasn’t exactly because they provided us the un-ending joy of blissful marriage. Some of us were laughing at this grand experiment called capitalism… how could the market ever support something so absurd, modern, and dare we say beautiful?

Yep, we did. Because even though none of us would be caught dead in these bad boys (well, maybe Roxie… as the shortest one of the bunch, she does love a nice pair of spike heels), there is something about the unabashed creativity and subtle beauty of haughty, gaudy shoes. To each his own—we’re big fans of variety.

Sure, the designers of these killer shoes might have had modern design for the distinguished buyer in mind, but we like the idea more than the final product. Breaking convention, demanding high-art aesthetic over all else, and blending of traditional function (everyone needs shoes, right?) and a keen eye for style give us something to cheer about.

So as you power down the computer tonight, start the engine inside your head on the most creative Ketubot you could possible want. We’ll be waiting (even if it is inspired by ridiculous shoes). Shabbat Shalom!

Jacob
Team Ketubah


21Sep

The Eddie-Murphy-Head-Truck-ish Ketubah!

This Is Not a Ketubah is proud to present our latest Ketubah endeavor: our tribute to the man, the myth, the legend: EDDIE MURPHY. Like all our Ketubot, the Eddie Murphy’s Head on a Truck-ish Ketubah is available with Orthodox, Conservative, Progressive, Humanist or Same-Sex Ketubah text in both English and Hebrew.

The Eddie Murphy Ketubah Could Be Yours!

Just kidding! But it does look like we’re about three years late on the uptake of the most hilarious thing we’ve seen in a long, long time. I think I speak for all of us when I say: The Eddy Murphie Truck Head is downright inspiring.

Let me set the scene: imagine you are cruising down 287 (actually lets be real: when was the last time anyone ‘cruised’ on the Tappan-Zee? Never.), painfully dreading the moment when you will transfer onto the Beast that is the Jersey Turnpike. You casually look in your rear-view mirror only to see it taken up by AN ENORMOUS REPLICA OF EDDIE MURPHY’S HEAD.

You don’t know what to do—laugh? Cry? Choke in disbelief? Call your Dad in Ft. Lauderdale to remince about your favorite movie, Trading Spaces? Snap a picture with your iPhone? You can’t decide. You are an emotional wreck of joy, excitement, and the awesome-ness that is, behold, the Eddie Murphy Head Truck.

What does This Is Not A Ketubah have to do with this picture besides a slight obsession with the head-truck (but not actually Eddie Murphy himself)? The truth is, more than meets the eye. For some couples, movies are the core of their relationship. Some member of our collective have watched another Harry Potter with their girlfriend every Thursday for the last three months. Others have had Hebrew Hammer marathons for days on end.

Ok, so movies are important. But what speaks to us most was the thrilling emotion, creativity, and bold moves of whatever PR firm decided to commission the idea of the Edde-Murphy-Head-Truck. We commend their funky, dare we say artsy?—clever marketing, brightening the day of the thousands, perhaps millions of lives they touched. One day, This Is Not A Ketubah aspires to be as great as the Eddie Murphy Head Truck.

Hey, a guy can dream, right?

Jacob
Team Ketubah


20Sep

Our Ketubot Party Hard. Just Like Your Reception.

There are few things we like better than really exciting, rollicking, make-you-dance-like-its your-Bar-Mitzvah-reception wedding parties… and that’s even before the bar opens. Sure, any one can party. But not everyone has the opportunity to party when surrounded by all of their loved ones, celebrating the most special day of their lives.

Our Ketubot Part Hard. Sometimes in Tents.

As part of our inspiration to discover the types of Ketubot that couples want for their awesome weddings, I like to check out wedding photography and blogs, and then report back to our team design meetings. The more we know about modern couples, the more we know about what they think is awesome!

For instance, I never thought I’d know so much about the prevalence of translucent wedding tents. Or that deep purple is the go-to color for winter weddings. Hey, you live and you learn, right?

Of course, more than learning the nuts-and-bolts of the modern wedding is the opportunity to stumble upon inspiring picture of people having the time of their life at a wedding. Not just having fun, sipping on champagne, and talking to Safta. But shoes-off, party like its 1999 fun! The pictures like this one by Mesravotit’s Photography elicit all the emotions weddings should!

If a wedding can elicit that much emotion, Team Ketubah asks: why cant a Ketubah?! In the Jewish tradition, Ketubahs have always been accompanied by traditional parties—loads of dancing, klezmer, and nosh! Maybe your great-grandmother once told you about her wedding in the shtetl days? Those people knew how to party!

This Is Not A Ketubah wants to preserve these values with a few modern twists. Weddings should be about pure joy and bliss, and your Ketubah should be a way to remember them forever! From the warm colors of our latest Rothko to the otherworldliness of our brand-new gorgeous Chagall, to our whimsical Scottish Terrier Ketubah… we design our Ketubot to make the most of your simcha!

So no matter who you’re getting hitched to, we hope your wedding is as awesome as the one above—and invite Team Ketubah along!

Thanks to Manuel Meszarovits Blog for the awesome photography.


16Sep

Ketubah, Shakira, and Gut Shabbos!

This Is Not a Ketubah is all about blending creativity and tradition. Each week before Shabbat we like to have a fun brainstorm with all our team members about all things awesome, artsy, inspired by design, what my Bubbe might call ‘hip’ and of course Jewish! Lately, one this has been on our minds- we’re halfway through Elul, which means Rosh Hashanah is right around the corner!

What does Rosh Hashanah mean for a bunch of artists living and working in Buenos Aires? For one, just as Fall is setting in for New York Jews, summer is on its way for those of us living below the equator. With sunny weather means more time outside–and therefore more inspired, colorful Ketubot. Making creative, custom Ketubahs isn’t just our passion, its our obsession.

Beyond warm weather, preparing for Rosh Hashanah also means figuring out a way to de-crystalize the honey in the bottle and pour it on some apple! One of us (well, me) has found a new tradition: singing the Waka Waka Rosh Hashanah song!

Check out this awesome video we found by the Fountainheads of Ein Prat Academy for Leadership in Israel! Nothing brings a little high-holiday excitement like singing Jews. Especially when there’s a shofar involved. Even better when its in Israel.

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We love this video for all of the reasons we love making awesome Ketubot. From recognizing different types of Jewish families to using the style of something typically non-Jewish (or maybe Shakira is, in fact Jewish?!?!), we get it. Its creative, fun, and doesn’t mind shaking up tradition while sticking to it. In fact, we imagine that any member of this incredible group were to marry another program participant, our Ketubot would be an excellent match for their ball-throwing, Star-Wars imitating antics.

Who says modern art has to be about super-trendy elite design all the time. We’d love to eat some apples and honey with them!

Jacob

Team Ketubah



14Sep

In The Making: Celtic Ketubah!

 

 

 

 

Lately we’ve been surprised by the number of requests and searches for a Celtic Ketubah-—and super excited about putting our creativity together to channel this new type of art!  As a bunch of Jews growing up Celtic art was something beautiful and intriguing, but not quite the meat-and-potatoes of our culture (pun intended!)

Sure, our team strives to work in the great modern masters like Chagall, Klimt, Mondrian, and Lichtenstein.  But to us, creating colorful Ketubot doesn’t mean just European masters – it means listening to what our friends and clients tell us they are looking for.  We’re so glad we asked!

We’re lucky to work with couples who share their own exciting recent inspiration: Book of Kells.  An interfaith couple of Jewish and Irish/Scottish decent, they idea of a Celtic Ketubah made perfect sense.  With our egalitarian interfaith text option, they’ll have a Ketubah that is 100% a union of their values, backgrounds, and affection. Imagine a custom Ketubah just as awesome as the couple who requested it!

Of course that is the This Is Not a Ketubah: to create the best, most beautiful, colorful Ketubah designs that couples can deeply connect with.  The blending of tradition with today.

In fact, a little bit of research shows that this modern idea isn’t so far removed from the past.  Check out the two pics below—one a sample from the Book of Kells, another from among the oldest intact Ketubot ever discovered.  Maybe ancient Jews and ancient Irish weren’t too different after all.  Or maybe its just me?

 

In any case, our art team is hard at work (and a fair amount of heated conversation deep) in creating a Celtic Ketubah to post to the This Is Not a Ketubah Gallery!  Our hope is that Irish-American-Jewish couples will find the Celtic Ketubah as an affirmation of their identity.

As with all of our Ketubot, we look forward to seeing the Ketubah hung on the happy couple’s wall as a testament to their union, and maybe even one day for their children to marvel at!

Jacob
Team Ketubah

Photo credits to the Jewish Resource Library/Library of Congress and Matt Stone Blog!


13Sep

Text Talk with Team Ketubah!

Last week, we talked about making some changes to www.ThisIsNotaKetubah.com site to make sure that every visitor could tell what This Is Not a Ketubah is about.  From explaining more about our range of Ketubah texts to how we can work with couples to include their own original vows, we want to make sure your Ketubah is 100% about the couples we serve.

You might notice that we don’t have any text examples post on the ‘Our Text’ page.  Why is this?  First, we thought it would be information overload to see mountains of text, and a lot of clicking, which we generally don’t like—who likes endless clicks?

Second, we rather speak with couples directly to learn more about their background before we recommend a text.  While some couples might know right off the bat they looking for an Orthodox text, they may not know about the option of a Lieberman Clause.

Alternatively, couples identifying as Reform might not know about Humanists text, which replaces emphasis on God and Jewish tradition to community and connection among individuals. Couples looking for an interfaith Ketubah may not even know where to start!

Lesbian and gay couples span the range of religious observance, and the last thing we want is a feeling of confinement to a specific text.  Rather than be limited to a list which says “you are this—therefore pick this” our approach is hands-on, sincere, and individual.

Our modern designs and colorful work is a product of the emotion that love should bring. As we speak with more and more couples about their awesome custom Ketubah, we get even more ideas. As we combine the texts we work with you to create with a background of modern masters—Chagall, Picasso, Miro, and Klimt to name just a few!

We look forward to working to make you the most beautiful Ketubah you’ve ever seen.  Be in touch!

Jacob

Team Ketubah


12Sep

What Happens when you need a Ketubah Urgently?

We recently had a couple who urgently needed a Ketubah.

It was Tuesday afternoon. Their wedding was on Saturday. They Googled “overnight Ketubah” and came to our site. The Ketubah was needed so quickly that there was no time to even think or plan — we just needed to do, to get them the urgent Ketubah so quickly!

The problem was, their rabbi was supposed to create the Ketubah but effectively forgot to. Oh no!

We usually recommend buying a Ketubah at least 2 months in advance; if it is a commissioned Ketubah, then at least 6 months in advance. Usually less is needed, but this ensures extra time in case there’s any delay.

But what happens when someone forgets it, and you need one days later?

We started by speaking in detail with the couple: what is the wedding date? What kind of Ketubah do you want? Which Ketubah text? It happened to be a same-sex couple who were wonderful to talk to and deal with on the phone, a very lovely experience.

We then realized that, for the Ketubah to arrive before the wedding, we needed to ship it STAT. By Tuesday night, the Ketubah was done — Jacob and Yael were up until 1am finishing it! Wednesday morning it went out, next day mail — so it should have arrived by Thursday.

Nothing is ever so easy. There was a delay for unknown reasons at the Fedex center in Memphis, so the Ketubah just sat there for an extra day.

We were nervous all day Friday: the Ketubah was supposed to arrive then, one day late and one day before the wedding — but this leaves no leeway in case there was any error.

Jacob kept calling Fedex all day long until — voilà — they confirmed the arrival, Friday at 4pm. Just in time!


09Sep

Delivered!

Nothing is more exciting before Shabbat than to see the GREEN LIGHT from FedEx!  Even better is getting the incredible emails from happy couples exited about seeing them! Its been a great week for the This Is Not A Ketubah team… now time to unwind at shul!

Shabbat Shalom!

Jacob

Team Ketubah


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